Binding or freeing.....

"Love is not a protective cage but the gift of wings that allows another to fly free."-Source Unknown
How true is this statement?! Now before I start please note I am thinking practical every day life here and not looking at a romantic love story! How freeing is love? When you love you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, you want to get married, have a life, perhaps some children, blah blah the whole white-picket-fenced-house picture; but in living all your dreams I just see the person being more tied down to each other. I don’t say it’s a bad thing but its human nature to start being so dependent on the next person ....for everything or almost all of it. Just this morning I was trying to explain why I refuse to use an alarm clock because I know that my husband uses his and will be there to wake me up in time!! I’m not a primitive, I used an alarm clock...once upon a time but ever since I got married I don’t think I used one…or felt the NEED to use it. And what’s funny is that you don’t have to be married to experience this. It could be couples who live in together or maybe just dating....you depend on the other person for maybe bringing you your coffee, or helping with the groceries, or driving around so you can pop in at the atm machine, or take your car for a wash because you don’t have the time, or cook for you, help with the laundry, help you decide while shopping what looks good on you, what color should your nails be and the list can go on forever. I think its inevitable because you don’t intentionally want to be dependent but because you know the person is always there for you, you can ask and slowly it just becomes a habit and in other cases the persons approval or opinion about you is very important. So do statements like 'love is freeing' hold any truth in the real life?

Bar hopping or bed hopping??

One fine warm night in Dubai 2 of my friends and myself decide to go for dinner and dancing. The plan which took over a year to execute was well worth the wait and definitely fun. Even in my high state of mind from amazing Italian food, ear-blasting house music and a frenzy of cocktails i could not help but notice all the eager looking men and women in the room. Observations: men scanning the room like hawks, looking too eager and obviously going slow on the drinks to sustain the ability to walk out of the disc and perhaps if lucky supporting an overtly drunk lady in their arms. The women...scantily dressed, excessive makeup, shoes with heels that threatened their each step and drinking like the world ends tomorrow....hoping to meet their knight in shining armor.....or maybe not???I couldn’t help but wonder that people who would stay in that room would be there for the single reason of being hooked up/getting laid/free sex or whatever you may call it.......its all about sex isn’t it?! What else can it be? Some people go for the music but those wouldn’t get pissed drunk, some go to get drunk but with the safety net of a friend(in my case 2) or a safe male companion but what about the rest of them?! Am I being too judgmental here or is it really a sad thing to do or a sad situation to be in?? Is it being too desperate and is that the last resort?? Or am I being really critical just because i do not have the same worries of having to find someone or be held or just have some sex now and again??